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I have three more days at my current job. As I type this I am employed by a software subsidiary of a big, corporate, Fortune 500 company.

Early in my job here I met with all of my peers individually, just for introductions and to solicit guidance and best practices so I could do my job successfully. I specifically remember the conversation that I had with my friend Cameron. He’s been with the company for many years and is always a top producer. He told me that he thought I would do just fine at this job as I had the tenacity, experience, and attitude to be successful. He went on to tell me about some previous employees that just weren’t a fit and didn’t last very long. He said there were a couple who were “mouse jigglers.”

I didn’t know what a mouse jiggler was so I looked it up. A mouse jiggler is software used to simulate the movement of a computer mouse. It can also be a mechanical device moving the physical computer mouse. I guess in most implementations it’s so that an employee can be away from his desk, endeavoring upon other fruitful and enjoyable pursuits while tricking coworkers and managers to think that he’s at his desk, busy writing emails and accepting many meeting invitations.

I only have three days left at this job. I’ve had conversations with my bosses since I submitted my resignation. I have nothing to do at my current job other than a couple exit interviews and await a pre-paid postage box that I’ll use to ship my work-issued laptop back to headquarters.

So I spent a few minutes this morning to learn more about “mouse jiggling.”

I mean, if you can’t have fun in your last days at a job, what else are you going to do? Jiggle your own mouse?

Twenty two years ago today I started a job at Wellness Works. After being there for a couple years, my boss promoted me, handed me the keys, and taught me how to run the business.

This Friday will mark the 1-year anniversary that I was wrongfully fired from my job at a run club, denied unemployment compensation because my then-boss lied to the Texas Workforce Commission, and made for a really stressful and frustrating 2024.

This Friday will also be my last day at my current job. There’s a bit of a full circle thing happening and I’m excited about it.

It’s been a whirlwind of a week. Not what I’d expected, but pleasantly refreshing. This was the first week after holidays and that time of year when we’ve historically just been thrust back into normal life. And I always kind of dread this week. I get the post-holiday winter blues.

I was doing okay all through last weekend, and even early on Monday morning. I didn’t make it sad. But when the buzzer went off at 8:00 a.m. and it was finally time to go back to normal, I sat at my desk and then it hit me. I dreaded going back to work. I just didn’t want to do it. I wasn’t motivated. I wasn’t inspired. I didn’t want to be there anymore. I felt like I didn’t belong there, doing that job. It was 8:04 a.m. and I was already depressed.

I knew I had just just start doing something to make progress in figuring out what I was going to do next. I decided I’d just start the slow and arduous job of looking for a job, sending out resumes, maybe get some interviews, and just see where my journey takes me. But in my heart of hearts I knew that the standard job search wasn’t going to work. So, for grins, I went to our neighborhood’s “job board” Facebook group and saw a post from back in early September. A neighbor was looking for a Director of Operations to manage their business. So I sent her a message. I knew it was a long shot since her post was four months old. As luck would have it, she messaged me back, told me that they’d hired someone for the role, and his start date was supposed to be that very day, but he no-showed. She asked me to send her my resume, so I obliged. She then asked if I’d be able to come in for an interview that week. I gave her my availability, so we settled on an interview the next morning at 10:00 a.m. By 2:00 p.m. on Wednesday I had a job offer. I put in my resignation with my current company at 3:00 p.m.

I’m so excited about this new job. It’s just too much to list here, but it’s like life has come full circle. I used to do a similar job in another life 20 years ago. I’d lucked into that job by way of being a dedicated and trustworthy employee. My boss promoted me and taught me how to run the business, and I like to think I did a good job at it. I loved that job. I got to make decisions, I got to be creative, I got to be a servant leader, I got to build relationship, I got to learn every day, I got my ass kicked and I got back up. But that company was sold, and my team and I weren’t part of the acquisition. I lost that job. So that lead me down a long and different career path that, if I’m being honest, a lot of it hasn’t been as fulfilling.

So, long story short, my week and upcoming months that I was set to dread turned into a fast and furious and amazing change for the good, and I’m really, really excited about it.

Maly went back up to Charleston past Saturday. She was dreading it (to a degree). The first day of school was canceled because of snow and ice. She doesn’t have classes on Tuesdays or Thursdays, so her first day of class was on Wednesday. After my good luck on Tuesday and Wednesday, I sent her a text message to see how life and classes had been. She said it was a good day. That made my day that much better.

It’s high time we have a series of fortunate events.

Elise and I took Maly to the airport yesterday afternoon so she could get back to Charleston to start school on Monday. She was bummed about having to go back. We were bummed about her going back. There were a few hints during the break about her dropping out, or transferring to another college. I think it’s the post-holiday blues and knowing she has to go back to “work” 1,300 miles away from home.

I get it. I get the blues after the holidays. In fact, I get it really badly. I probably get depressed. I just don’t have a doctor to tell me I get clinically depressed.

While I was writing this year’s Christmas Newsletter, I could tell I really starting to get the blues. And I was worried that I’d really start getting down today and tonight since it’s the Sunday after Maly left for college, Elise and I are back to work (again, after a weekend), and Mara’s Christmas break is coming to an end too.

Maly spent four days in Aspen with Jared and his family. She came back on January 1st so she could spend time with us, and get ready to head back to Charleston. Jared and the family stayed in Aspen until the 4th, which is the same day Maly left for Charleston. Maly and Jared had to say goodbye in Aspen. I guess now that I type that, Aspen’s probably not a bad place to say goodbye.

But I asked her if it was sad having to say goodbye to Jared in Aspen. She simply said, “yeah, but we didn’t make it sad.” I heard her when she said those words, but they didn’t set in until yesterday, the day we’d take Maly to the airport. The end of her Christmas break and the last time we’d see her in person for months. I made it a point to be around her as much as I could yesterday. I kept trying to remember the words she used. Was it “don’t let it be sad” or “don’t make it sad?”

I settled on “don’t make it sad.” That implies that I have some control of how I manage my emotions. If I think “don’t let it be sad” that implies that I’ll let my emotions dictate my emotional wellbeing.

We took Maly to the airport yesterday. We parked in short-term parking and walked into the airport with her to check her bag and to see her off to go through TSA. Every once in a while I’d think to myself, “don’t make it sad.” We watched Maly until we couldn’t see her anymore. I don’t think either of us wanted to leave the airport, but there was no sense in hanging out at the airport. Our child was on her way.

Instead of going home for the invariable moping and sitting on the couch and watching TV, Elise and I went to Home Depot and Costco. We had time to kill, and it was something to do.

When we got home, I kept reminding myself, “don’t make it sad.” I stayed busy. I made green chile pork stew, watched some football, went to bed, put a dent in Great Expectations, and conked out around 10 p.m. and slept the best that I can recall in a really long time. I slept in until 5:45 (I’m usually up around 4:00 a.m.). I got out of bed a little disoriented because I’m usually out the door for a run before 6. I started my morning rituals and “don’t make it sad” popped into my head like it was second nature. I didn’t think or dwell on Christmas winding down, or Maly being halfway across the country and us not seeing her again for months. I pressed on, went about my morning, got dressed, loaded up, and went for my run.

When she left home for college in August, I was a wreck. For weeks.

This morning was very gray and slightly windy. The outside atmosphere was somber and melancholy. I loaded up a “chill winter mix” playlist and just went out to run the hills in Lost Creek and Barton Creek. I didn’t let anything get to me. I didn’t make it sad.

It’s simple and effective. And it’s a lesson learned from whom would otherwise be the source of sadness.

Don’t make it sad.

I had a HeartSaver CT scan on December 20th to check for any calcification of my coronary arteries. The results came in today. I scored a zero across the board. There’s no presence of atherosclerotic plaque in any of the scanned coronary arteries.

I’ve run every day since December 20th because it’s just what I do. I enjoy it more than anything, and I’m training to pace the Austin Marathon on February 16th so I can help others achieve their goals. There hasn’t been a day that’s gone by in these past 14 that I haven’t thought that this might be the last run. Something could get lodged or dislodged and that could be the proverbial widowmaker.

I opened the envelope that contained my test results as I walked the quarter mile back from the mailbox. I read as fast as I could and took in as much as I could until I got to the series of zeros in my Agatston score. My throat closed and my eyes just filled with tears. I don’t know why. I don’t know if it’s because I fear death. I don’t think I do. But I do contemplate my mortality as I get older. I wonder if it’s because I think this is just going to be a part of life now; getting scans and tests for things that I need to get scanned and tested so I can know what’s going to slow me down and kill me if I’m proactive about it. But that’s all doom and gloom.

I think the reason that my eyes welled up is because a piece of paper reminded me that I’m alive today. And today is all that I have.

Maly sent us this video from her last day of skiing in Aspen. Elise and I have watched it more times that we can count. It’s heartwarming and funny, and while each time I watch it I find myself laughing just as much I did the first time I watched it, I’ve also found motivation and inspiration from it.

1. Stop being intimidated or scared. Put yourself out there. Try new things. Do hard things.
2. Be confident, comfortable, and willing to laugh at yourself. Life is too short and too serious to not laugh often and bring smiles and laughter to others.
3. No matter how many times I get knocked down, keep getting back up.

Every year, beginning in mid-December, Strava generates these cool year in review wrap-up graphics for subscribers who use its service. It’s kind of cool to see a snapshot of what all I’ve done in sport (mostly running) in the past 12 months.

Merry and Bright and everything’s alright

Merry Christmas, and we hope this year’s newsletter finds you blessed and bright. It’s amazing that a whole week has already passed since I wrote the last newsletter. I know it hasn’t been a week, but it feels like it.

2024 for us has been a humdinger. A real hootenanny. And here I am, reflecting on it all. It’s hard to reflect on the past year in my head because I’m getting old. I went through some years where I’d find myself having walked into a room and then forget why I even walked into that room. There were a couple times when I’d find myself in the bathroom with my zipper pulled down and forget why I was in that room. Thankfully I could put two-and-two together on that endeavor. I told Elise if she finds me at the mailbox with my zipper pulled down then it’s time to put me in the home. Right now I’m at that stage in life where I’ll be sitting on the couch and be inspired by an immediate chore or task, I’ll stand up to tend to the task, and then find myself trying to remember why I even stood up in the first place.

Funny stuff aside, this year has been, for yours truly, in a word, hard. The tone was set in mid-January when I was fired from my job at the local run club. I’d never been fired from a job before so it really stung. What stung even more is that I was fired for unsubstantiated reasons. I’ll spare you the gory details, but over the course of the following 5 months there was a lot of anger and frustration, and eventually a hearing with the Texas Workforce Commission. Yours truly won but it made for a very stressful first half of the year and was a stark reminder to go with my gut when something’s not right, especially with workplace management.

I started a new job in mid-June and was quick to put all of those aforementioned frustrations behind me. Until I reminded myself of them for the sake of this newsletter. And now I’m all pissed off again and I was going to stand up and kick my chair but then I forgot why I stood up.

Elise celebrated her 1-year anniversary at Wilson Roofing this past October. You should see her now. She’s so tan and muscular from all of the roofs that she’s been installing that you wouldn’t even recognize her. She was hired on as the receptionist until they realized how muscular she is in the brain and ambition, so they moved her into an account management role where she does things like managing accounts and other account management duties. All I know is that she comes home and has all kinds of office antics to recount. Things like ugly sweater contests, toilets nearly overflowing, and customers and coworkers who tell her that they really appreciate her.

This year was a tough one for us as parents as we sent Maly off to college this past August. Steve (Elise’s dad) always reassures that we’ve given her strong roots and wings, and while Elise and I are confident that we’ve done a pretty okay job in raising her, it’s still just so damn hard when your child moves away. I know Elise and I share many feelings and emotions, but we still had and have our own. I think we both began our “grieving” early in Maly’s senior year of high school when we knew the inevitable was nearing. I think Elise did a better job of processing her emotions over a longer period of time throughout the school year. I also had many of my own moments and opportunities, but it really hit me hard after we dropped her off in Charleston, WV, came back home, and were thrust back into “normal” life. I was a weepy, emotional, depressed wreck for weeks after we left her. I’m doing much better now, but it took me a really long time to get to this point. More time than I’d honestly anticipated.

All of my sappy emotions aside, Maly is doing really well in college. She was recruited to play Division II women’s lacrosse, so she had a community and friend group going into her college experience. Lacrosse is a Spring sport, but the Fall semester included lots of practices, workouts, and scrimmages. She’s doing great academically as well. She has already changed her major from nursing to business. She’s learning to navigate life as an adult and make big decisions and we think she’s doing a damn good job of it. I guess we did do kind of an okay job with that whole roots and wings thing.

Mara started the 7th grade this year and is still our little loving and adorable baby. Although she’s not so little any more, nor is she a baby. Hell, she’ll be a teenager here in a few months. While she is getting into that teen phase and has become more independent and has her own thoughts and opinions and ideas on things, she remains her agreeable and easy-going self. She’s always been really good about going with the flow and taking life as it happens, and while I’m bad about telling her, I greatly admire that quality about her and she sets a really good example for me.

The age difference between our daughters didn’t really make for a close sister relationship as children, but when they said “goodbye” when we were leaving Maly at her dorm in August brought Elise and me to tears. It really hit Mara when it was time for that final hug goodbye. The girls both laughed in acknowledging that they both didn’t think it would be so hard to say goodbye to each other, and Mara was still crying in the van as we finally drove away. Being the young stoic that she is, she lightened the collective mood by telling us that she was excited to finally have the bathroom all to herself.

Mara still plays lacrosse for Southwest Area Girls Lacrosse and her season will be starting back up in February. Seventh grade is always when middle school gets more difficult and demanding and she’s been feeling it, but she’s been doing great and learning how to adapt. There have been times when Elise and I will start getting concerned about academics, organization and executive functioning, and then Mara will just get it all taken care of. Mara’s independence is her own, and Elise and I have to remind ourselves of that while we continue to do our job with that whole roots and wings thing.

The family dynamic is obviously different now with just the three of us in the house, and I don’t think we’ve quite settled into whatever the new normal is. This whole year has been met with all kinds of new. Elise and I both started new jobs. Maly moved 1,200 miles away for college. Mara became the only child in the house. And both cats now have osteoarthritis.

I don’t think I’ve mentioned the pets in a Christmas newsletter in a long time. We’ve had Loki (orange tabby), Mac (gray tabby) and Blue (Australian cattle dog/Husky mix) for well over a decade now. Elise and I are getting old and the pets are getting old too. Both cats have osteoarthritis. We’ve always kept the cat food up high, on the far side of the bar in the kitchen so the dog won’t eat their food. Now we have to lift both cats up to the bar so they can eat because they can no longer jump up. They both have old and tired back legs. Mac has diabetes, so we have to give him 4 units of insulin twice daily. I always joked that if we had pets that required that much maintenance I’d take them out to the pasture, which is really our tiny little suburban backyard. But they’re our pets, which means they’re part of the family and, well, I don’t think there’s really anything more important than family. I’d probably build little scooters for the cats if they get to the point where they can’t use their back legs any longer.

I admittedly put off writing this Christmas newsletter this year. I always become very conscious of it when thoughts and discussions of Halloween start to surface. And that’s when I start to think about how arduous the task is to recount everything that’s happened in the past year. I always joke about how bad my memory is and how I can’t even remember what I did yesterday, but that’s just me making light of the truth. So I’ll start to go through the photos that I’ve taken in the past year. And then that makes me all distracted and nostalgic and sappy. And many of the photos that I’ve taken often don’t have context, so then I’ll start scrolling through my Facebook account to see what all we’ve done in the past year. And then I’ll get mad at myself for not posting more stuff on Facebook, but I’ll remind myself that people who purportedly know more stuff about life than I do say that social media is bad and is a waste of your time. At that point, many hours, hell, probably days have gone by and I’ve forgotten why I was looking at all of my photos and Facebook posts from 2024 in the first place. And then before I know it, it’s time to rush and cram in the last bit of day job work, schedule that groan-worthy but necessary “I’ll be out for the holidays but I look forward to connecting after the New Year. Happy Holidays!” email autoresponder, family comes into town or we have to rush into the logistics of our family’s travel, and invariably there’s more presents to procure, and then, all of the sudden, it’s Christmas morning.

As I type this it’s December 29th. I’m really late in authoring the newsletter. I think this is the first year that I didn’t write this before Christmas Day. However, I’m one of those that believes in the 12 days of Christmas. Not so much as a religious observation and the leading up to Epiphany, but because I just really like Christmas. I love Christmas trees, the smell of pine and bald cypress, Santa Claus and his reindeer, presents, stockings, the lights, the Christmas movies, the food and the cookies, the music, and all of the fond memories that I have from my childhood Christmases, and now the many Christmas memories that I’ve amassed over the years with Elise, our daughters, and our family.

It’s December 29th and I’m sitting on the back deck and it’s 65 degrees outside. I just got bit by a mosquito on that meaty part between my thumb and forefinger on my left hand. Christmas eve and day have come and gone, just like any other date on the calendar. It didn’t feel like Christmastime outside on its eve or day this year in Austin as it was unseasonably warm. It doesn’t feel like Christmastime outside right now. It’s Sunday afternoon and it’s back to work for Elise and me tomorrow. If I’m being honest, I’m suffering from the Sunday Syndrome. I don’t want to go back to work and “normal” tomorrow. I’m dreading it. I want Christmastime to stay. But I know it can’t. The days will continue to come and go faster and faster, as they all seem to do nowadays, and another Christmas will be here before I know it, and I need to remind myself to continue cherish and love every Christmas, every day in between, and the family and friends who hold a place in our hearts on each and every one of those days.

While I was sitting out on this old deck writing this newsletter, I decided to set the mood and play some Christmas music. But I didn’t want the fun and traditional “Jingle Bells” and “Santa Claus is Coming to Town” Christmas music. I wanted something mellow, melancholy and introspective, so I found a coffeehouse Christmas playlist on Spotify and I let it play quietly in the background while I wrote. A song entitled “Christmas Always Finds Me” caught my ear, so I’ll leave you with a lyric that spoke to me. It’s a little reminder to lean on faith and love during the holidays.

“When silver bells and silent night
And mistletoe’s nowhere in sight
With no chance of snow falling down
Another year older
Little harder to believe
But somehow Christmas always finds me”

We hope this Christmastime is merry, bright and full of love and happiness for you and yours.

With our love and gratitude,

P.S. The archive of Christmas newsletters can be found here.

After our third annual Circle C Ranch Turkey Trot. I don’t get to see the family much on Thanksgiving morning. We happened to convene near the finish line and Brian grabbed this photo for us.

We had our usual Thanksgiving in Okeene, OK this past weekend. The only difference being that dropped Maly off at DFW on our way back to Austin so she could catch a flight back to school in Charleston. Her flight was canceled. She had to spend the night in Atlanta. She decided to sleep in the airport.

Today at 7:18 a.m. EST.

"Are you okay?"

"tired."

"Did you sleep at all?"

"barely"

"Anything exciting happen?"

"i watched a bunch of guys set up the Christmas tree at 2:30am"

"Sorry you had to sleep at the airport :-(. I guess the 'hard' part is over."

"I did laps around the airport. went through tsa. laid on the floor. got starbucks at 2am. tried all the bathrooms"

These are photos from when we arrived in NYC on November 1st. It was an hour long Uber ride from JFK into Manhattan where we spent our first night at the Westin New York Grand Central. Mara got to ride in her first NYC subway so we could go to the race expo at the Javits Center. I didn’t want to spend any more time at the expo than was necessary. I got my bib, my shirt, and we said hi to a couple friends and boogied out of there. The expo is crazy.

I didn’t realize it until I started combing through pictures, but I like the wide angle photo of the Javits Center where Mara is looking up. The building and the expo are pretty overwhelming.

On Saturday morning I admittedly bandited the Abbott Dash to the Finish 5k. I was in search of a shakeout run route. It was too far for me to walk to Central Park. Manhattan’s crazy and I don’t know the streets well. I started poking around Google and Instagram in search of something so I could get in my shakeout. Low and behold, there was a 5k that would be passing right in front of our hotel. So I decided I’d just hop in, run 1.5 miles, turn around and head back home. Well, as I exited our hotel, there were a bunch of runners walking to the start. So I just got on board and walked with everyone to the start. And I jumped in after the barricades and did the best job of being a non-impeding bandit as I could be. I got a little caught up in the energy and decided to run the entire 5k, all the way to the marathon finish line in the park. So my little shakeout wound up being 7 miles.

When I got home I made a donation to the New York Road Runners. It doesn’t make up for me banditing, but it was something.

Later that morning we stopped at Comfort Diner for breakfast. I carefully topped of glycogen stores. Then we humped it 15 blocks to our new accommodations. Elise made a friend on the way. They talked about life, politics, and women’s rights.

Terri & Craig arrived later that afternoon while Elise and Mara were out site seeing and getting their nails done. The night came early. Everyone was looking to me to decide on dinner since I had the big race in the morning. I settled on Greek. The cheaper and easier the better. Our concierge had us going to fancy places. I opted for the joint down the street so we could just salads, gyros, hummus, and a lot of pita.

I reviewed logistics, went over my plan, put my kit together, and went to bed at 9:00 p.m. Elise and Craig studied the map so while I was out running 26 miles, they could find the vantage points to see me.

I don’t know if I’d call it a ritual or a tradition, but I’ve written something on my thigh for my last few bigger races. What I write is something very special to me and gives me motivation and inspiration when the race starts to get hard. While training for and running NYC I thought about Maly a lot. My firstborn who couldn’t be at the race with us. She was a big reason why I started running. She moved 1,300 miles away to go to college while I was in this training block. There were lots of thoughts and tears shed on those runs.

I didn’t look at my leg until around mile 18. That’s when I needed it, and I’m glad it was there. I’d picked up the pace at mile 16 and I knew the last 10 miles where going to be tough. My my real A Goal was to run a negative split at the NYC Marathon, something that most people will tell you is very difficult to do on that course.

The goal was 3:09:30. I came in at 3:04:04 and I did run a negative split. It wasn’t a marathon PR (“personal record”). It was my 3rd fastest marathon, but it was, by far, my best executed marathon and my proudest marathon performance to date.

The rest of the afternoon called for a lot of walking. We went back to the hotel so I could shower and change, and then back out the door again for a much-needed Reuben sandwich at P.J. Clarke’s. Oh, we ordered pizza through Uber Eats.

Monday was Craig’s birthday so he and I went for a recovery run through the park.

Lots of walking the rest of the day. We toured and had lunch in Chelsea Market (that’s lobster poutine up there). Down to Battery Park and the High Line. We saw Lady Liberty and the 9/11 memorial and museum. I don’t remember what we did that night. I think the adults went to St. Regis for $63 martinis and Mara and I hung back and watched TV. It was getting late, folks were getting hangry, and decisions were not wanting to be made, so we went downstairs to street vendor for some horrible hot dogs and knishes.

Tuesday was a lot of walking too. And subway rides. We walked 5th Ave and Maddison. We tried to get some custom lacrosse shoes made at the Nike store. We went into Chinatown and had lunch and gelato in Little Italy. Then back to midtown so Elise and Mara could finally see and walk through the park. Mara walked back with Terri and Craig while Elise and I moseyed through the park and all the way down 5th Ave back to our place past some election day craziness.

For our final night we saw The Outsiders at the Bernard B. Jacobs Theatre. I’m not a musical guy, but it was a great show (helped that I read the book for the first time a year ago). The family loved it. Terri, Elise, and Mara were all brought to tears.

Off season playday on October 20, 2024 against the University of West Virginia Wesleyan.

It’s bittersweet when your child still has “firsts” in her adult life and you can’t be there to witness, cheer, celebrate, and tell her how proud you are of her in person.

Entrance to the fair: $75
Three tickets to ride the Ferris wheel: $20
Cotton candy: $6
Taking the child to the fair again before she’s too old to experience a fair’s wonder: priceless